Ephesians 5:25, NKJV

Recently, I heard a friend say, "I don't need a partner, I just need another paycheck!" I was saddened to hear her words because our perceptions couldn't be further apart. I knew that I needed my husband like the air I breathed. He was my gift, and his value far surpassed financial measure.

I've not always lived in marital bliss. Many years ago, I'd been wounded in a relationship by a man who abandoned our marriage after more than ten years. I never thought I would love again, and certainly never marry, but God had His plans for a good-natured bachelor just waiting to be appreciated. I am grateful for the plans of hope that He held for me, too.

I often see the love of Christ reflected through my husband's words and deeds each day. When I am feeling overwhelmed by the world and need to retreat, I can lean on his open arms for comfort and depend on his natural instincts to protect me. His strong presence offers reassurance when I'm fearful and lonely. When I've lost my footing, he is there to brace and shield me against the raging winds of life. And when no one seems to understand, he listens and holds my hand. The gentleman that he is, he's been known to kiss my hand some mornings.

I knew what my husband was worth to my life, and his value was far greater than what could be measured in dollars and cents. How much is extravagant, forgiving love, and years of devotion worth? A husband who loves God and his wife is worth more than gold. Yes, he brings home a paycheck which provides food, clothing, and shelter; but, I don't need just a paycheck, I need my husband at my side.

I trust someday that my friend will realize a man's value in her life. As for me, I thank God for a husband whose eyes light up when I come into view, and for the joy of living with a man I adore. Priceless.

Question: Husbands, what does it mean when Paul exhorts you to "love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her"?

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